Well, I would put NC with OM at the very top of that list. If has to be first and foremost otherwise, you are setting yourself up for a colossal fall.
On the other things on your list... they sound good. Maybe you could be a bit flexible on a couple of them, such as the working out together. I mention that one because I, for one, don't like to work out with anyone, let alone my W. That is just kind of my personal get away time. Your W might feel the same and I don' think that it is fair, or necessary, for you to take that away from her.
The other ones seem good, if not essential.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
