I used to think that I could take my H back, but that he would have to climb Mt. Everest. Now, I think it's too late. Like you, I look back and I see how much he has been in control of our lives. He has hidden things from me, lied to me, and hardly ever thought how things might effect me. I was the one always thinking about him and our children. I'm not perfect ... far from it, but in general, he was in control of our marriage.
I doubt I would take him back now.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim