If you have followed my thread you will know that I have taken back control of my life. I have demanded respect where I have been a doormat before. I haven't responded to texts not concerning the kids and it has gotten so bad. I have to post on my phone for a few more days till I can get Internet and computer working again so I am sorry for the unorganized posts. You guys have helped me stay strong through the name calling and threats. I am not reacting so he has starting attacking my children by trying to put them in the middle. They don't belong there. Today he had off again for the 3 day in a row to spend with sick ow and her kids well that's his story. But he informed me he wouldn't be able to get the kids for visit this afternoon bc once again he couldn't leave her. Now mind you this is a man that when I had a miscarriage or I think they stated it as still birth at 14 weeks he refused to get off work to take me to hospital. I drove myself I remember being put in an er room after being told my precious daughter had died in utero the room next door was a woman with issues but the heart rate monitor on her for her baby was loud and still haunts my dreams. I am happy she didn't lose her baby so I didn't want to complain but it hurt me so bad to know my child was gone but still in my womb. I was alone. I called him at work I will never forget what he said. " well that's good at least I won't need to leave work. When are they releasing you so you can get the others from school ". I was devastated. But rationalized that that was his way of dealing with it. They decided to send me to a hospital 30 minutes away that is a university hospital and they would help me deliver my baby. The nurse called him to tell him and she came back into my room as they were putting me on the stretcher to transfer she asked me if I had anyone else to inform bc she had never dealt with a more selfish man in a situation like this. I was transferred to the other hospital. They gave me meds and the fantastic nurses took turns sitting with me. I delivered with almost no pain a precious baby girl as well as they could tell. I held her they let me bath her. No husband showed up. He did call this hospital to talk to me but the nurse intercepted and he told her I had caused an inconvience by him having to find people to get the others from school. He never came. I was finally able to get ahold of my friend from high school that lived 4 hrs away she came and got me. There is more but I am over talking my welcome
I am no saint but that's a horrible thing to do to your wife. When I got home my younger kids that didn't know better asked where the baby was and my husband said well mom couldn't handle it so she killed him with her body. I have never shared this before but I am tired of stuffing this stuff I have to heal. Even if no one responds. I need to journal this. And of course other things concerning marriage.
Any way back to tonight. After informing me he couldn't get them nor give me any money help. He decided again for the second day to give me surprise notice on getting kids. I told him no they made plans to go to a pizza thing at a friends church. He went crazy. Texting me every name in the book same old same old. No response from me. He then sent me a text saying he is coming to get them no matter what.
I told him no please do not do that. Give me the notice tomorrow and get them then. Nope not good enough. I told him they were at a church function. He called me a liar. Ignored. He then said he would see them tomorrow or Sunday and give me notice. 5 minutes later he said he was coming over to get the kids if he had to bust a window ton take them and when he left I would know he'd been there. Now he is 6ft 5 and I am 5ft 3 105 soaking wet and wearing boots. Years ago he snapped and beat me bad enough for me to spend a few days in hospital and he had jail time. Yes I am stupid for taking him back but well he had visitation and would say I wouldn't be there to protect them.
I had to call police I am embarased but had no choice. He showed his butt took the cops and almost got arrested. They made him leave but informed him that if I ever called them again for him being on my property then he would go to jail.
He laughed at me as he was leaving and said in front of two officers " she thought she was bad and tried to stand up to me in texts but I showed her I can still scare her. She is afraid of me. That's all I wanted her to know. I own her. Look at her shake". The officer told him he had 3 seconds to leave or be arrested.
I can't believe this is happening. Why worry about me if he is happy with his soul mate.?
Good news is that I am finally seeing his true self that I overlooked all these years.
Thanks for letting me post.
For those dbing. They do notice your changes so stay at it. Mine is just a psycho. That can't stand not being in control of me.
