I just don't know what I'm supposed to be doing. My H is...I don't know where. There is no way to do anything when he never is around or will talk to me. I guess he is completely done. He doesn't want to work on our marriage and he isolates himself so no one can get to him. Maybe I should just accept that he is never coming back to me and I just have to take the road to being single. I never knew he was so unhappy with me. There was absolutely no sign during the visits home this past spring. Nothing. Nobody could tell anything was wrong. Maybe he says he was unhappy so that he can justify his affair in his mind. Whatever it is, he's convinced that he doesn't want our M. I don't know how to turn that around.I can't believe this is my life.
Hey TJP
You are doing what you are supposed to be doing – again I am in the same pain you are in – do yourself a favor and stop asking why – there is no why and going over that question over and over again as I still do will get you nowhere – there is no way to get your head around it – it just happens.
I don’t know if you watched Star Wars but as soon as Darth Vader made a choice to turn to the darkside he fell far and fast – and that’s what happens when people turn to darkness like your husband did. He must fall till he crashes now – let him go !! The more you try to prevent this process the longer it will take – trust me I know !!
Let it go if you need more time before you want to go through with a divorce tell your husband you need time – I did this for 2 months after – I told her I was fine with it but I needed time to figure out what I wanted to do – DON’T bring up divorce.
Also do something NICE for you and your daughters together – they are the joy of your life so stick with them – do things for and with them – they are going through this too be there for them it will help you forget about you for a while.
Remember in the 37 rules “don’t ever give up no matter how dark things look”
Please take care of yourself – I hope you will feel better soon !!
Sunny
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
