His response was the same response I always get: I dont trust you, I don't know what your motivations are, you really hurt me over the course of several years, you keep changing your mind about what you want.
My response: I can't change the past, I can only change the future. And I've been working hard to change my behavior and change our dynamic. I'm not sure what else I can do. I do know that we won't ever solve anything if you aren't willing to try. I'm not sure why you want to go to therapy.
H's response: we are at a standoff and I'm tired of having the same conversation. Maybe the MC will help us get out of the same conversation.
I love straight talk, so I love your directness here...but then again, my W doesn't like it, so I see you running in the same circles as me to a point.
The trust issue is absolutely understandable, and you may remember me having a similar discussion with my W not long ago where I said "we have both got to start work on rebuilding trust." It's a long road and it's important to realize this is a two way street.
Maybe this is where you validate and say, "What can we do on both sides to start rebuilding our trust in one another?"
