My H is the type to feel sorry for himself and built this up bigger than they ate, milking them for all they're worth.

I finally stopped letting myself be emotionally blackmailed and did what you're doing: I put up "the hand", figuratively and literally, and advised him I was not going backwards, only forwards. He could join me or get left behind.

After a couple of times, he got the picture. One can only apologize so many times and after that, it becomes sadistic on their part.

M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing