Hey Arsene. I TOTALLY agree that you have to do it at your own pace. It's interesting to read your thread and the machinations you're going through now, as despite the fact that our sitchs are indeed different, there are quite a few similarities in the way we deal (or dealt) with them.

I'm 100% behind you. I need you to know that for sure!

Hell, it took months of me receiving similar posts to the ones you're seeing flood your thread now before ANY of them clicked for me at all... but one morning, I woke up and they started making sense. I have NO idea what changed, but something did.

One sentence in your previous posts sticks out quite a bit to me:

"considering what I have to overlook everyday"

This is the part that I refer to a self-sabotage. You putting aside your feelings and convictions in order to try to move along your sitch... IMO, that doesn't add up to a lasting change in the dynamics of a R... but that's just MHO

But I'm 100% in agreement with you in the "marathon" aspect and not rushing yourself in any way. I don't think that anyone here is trying to push you to DO something that you don't want to do. I know me personally... well I'm just playing the role of muse... not puppet-master! smile I think the people here just want you to see from a different perspective...

I can absolutely tell that you've had great progress on yourself and your 180s, and I'm sure that those will continue.

Have an awesome weekend Arsene! You deserve it!