Thanks Arsene and MKB, The original idea was we would alternate w/es of going and staying gone the entire w/e. So this is an improvement if she means it as its cut in half. W had D11 at 19 and has had often commented that she missed her 20s / the "party time" where she thought happiness would be. Last night she said she realized she wasn't really missing anything. This is an explanation, not a defense or justification of her actions. Thank you for the reminder of detach - distance / pursuit dance.
It's a huge amount of progress for the WAS to come up with on their own that they were not "missing out on anything".
