Adolescence is such a difficult and tumultuous time, and if she reverts back to that kind of thinking, it's no wonder she feels insecure.
Think about who would always be positive and give us compliments when we were younger - our parents. Whose opinion did we care less about- our parents! Who does our MLCer see us as? Parents!
I am sensing a theme here...
I'm sure it doesn't hurt to continue to give her friend type compliments. Maybe try giving specific compliments to show you are really paying attention. For example, when my H wears blue, it makes his eyes look ridiculously blue and beautiful. If she has a pair of pants that make her butt look especially good, tell her. Noticing things like perfume, make - up, and even shoes are good too.
It is hard when we care about their opinion, but they care more about others. They are looking for that validation from sources they don't expect it to come from.
Hey, I have one of those mystery buckets too! It keeps getting bigger by the day...
Just the fact that she apologizes for things and says that she appreciates your attempts shows HUGE progress. Keep up the great work!
PS- a quick ?... I think you have stated before that your wife now knows she is in the midst of an MLC. How the heck did that come about?
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
