Hey JB, thanks for checking in. How is the king of GAL?
It only becomes drama if we let it. I’ve been letting it a lot less these days. X sent me an email the other day, the first one in months. In it she explained she needed her old recipe box, the recipe box containing her grandmother’s recipes. She explained she needed a specific recipe for Finnish Tarts before this Friday (today).
She hasn’t made Finnish Tarts in 20 years and I always thought they were a waste of left over pot roast, but I digress.
So I thought about it for a while and located her old recipe box. I should probably clean out the kitchen cupboards. Doing so hasn’t been high on my priority list. I looked through the box and I did not locate the specific recipe she “needed”. I briefly considered chucking the whole thing in the trash, but decided to take the high road and determine a means of getting it to her with the least impact to me. In her email she had suggested meeting in a local park or giving it to our S and DIL.
Giving it to S and DIL was out of the question. X recently angered them again and I didn’t wish to give them my bag o trash to handle. Fortunately, our D stopped by for a visit and upon seeing the recipe box out asked why it was there and what I was doing with it.
After I explained she said her mother shouldn’t be attempting to saddle me with more drama. That her mother should have either taken the box when she took her “stuff” or have written it off as lost. Our D has been all about erasing evidence of X’s presence from my house. I didn’t think I was upset by X’s request. I thought I was bemused.
In the end our D decided to take the box with her and give it to her mother. She said it had been sometime since she had seen her and she owed her an email.
I suspect this was an opening gambit from X to feel me out about going though the house again for more of her stuff. I am not wasting energy on this beyond recording it here.
The QDRO finally went through so we are coming to the final act of this drama X put into motion. I have roughly 60 days to refi the house and get her to sign a quit claim on it. After that there is the last tax filing before I am finally free of the financial entanglements.
I have been lurking over on the MLC forum, I have few illusions this will be completely over soon. With each passing milestone X’s ability to suck me into her drama lessens and that is a good thing.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
