I was hesitant, but I almost gave in to show her my changes.
I read that a lot on the board. But I don't think it works like that. She can't see your changes b/c she's blinded by her own lack of respect for you.
When the changes are really made....I'm talking to the point they have stuck.....and it is to improve the man (and not to just get her back), then she will hear about them through other people....and may have opportunities to actually see for herself...even if it's a few minutes at a time.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!