At some point you are going to have to respond to him concerning his questions. When you do, keep your response short and sweet. For example, "h, I need some to adjust to this situation. I am no in agreement with using a mediator." If he wants the divorce so badly, he can get a lawyer and the two lawyers can iron out the particulars. It's difficult trying to negotiate w/an mlcer all on your own.
I'm sorry you are dealing w/this. He's got a one track mind and all he sees is divorce down the road. FYI, If you attempt to drag your feet, it will be more expensive and frustrate/anger him even further. However, you can work w/your lawyer to ensure that things move along at a turtle's pace and w/the holidays around the corner, not much in the paperwork will move forward in the system.
Just my two cents.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
