I'm not sure what I should be doing at this point. H still isn't talking to me. He emailed yesterday again asking about if I was "going to work with him in this process. Are we going to use a mediator" He also said "we"weren't going to work on our marriage. I know he's not working on our marriage, but I sure am trying.
I went and saw a lawyer on Wed. I just wanted info on what I should be doing if H starts making crazy decisions. I feel better (I guess) knowing that I will have someone on my side. H thinks that we can figure things out. No way am I letting him do that. I also feel better about talking with his Dad last night. (See above post)
FIL says H isn't talking to him either. H only emailed FIL after FIL emailed H and said he was going to stop emailing all together if he didn't get a response from him. That prompted H to email his Dad. He told his Dad not to get all worked up and stop being like "that". His Dad was just trying to talk to him. This was all BEFORE I told FIL about everything. So, he pushed his Dad away too.
Both Ds are not communicating with H. He pretty much just says, "oh well". This is a man who used to be so close to his Ds. It's so sad to see their R the way it is now. It's not much different than he's treating me.
He still will only email. He never even called his Ds. His Dad agrees with me and thinks its not the same man we knew. His Dad said that if H pushes a D, then I will have a lawyer. He doesn't trust his decisions making either.
So, I'm ignoring any email that comes my way. I'm pretty sure he won't call. Maybe if he gets mad enough and wants to push his "process" forward he might call. I don't know if I could answer, I would be terrified.. Don't know whether to communicate with him at all. Ds will not. Am I on track of what I need to be doing? I'm pretty scared about it all.
