I don't really want to know what she sees in this guy. She says I'm a 'hot head' and I suspect that he is not. i think that she was just trying to find a way out of the relationship and he was the way. Right now her talk is all about how she never thought our marriage would last. And she was speaking with this guy in private only a year after we were married (claims that this was not an affair at the time, just talking, but it wasn't a commitment to us for sure). She ended it that time without my knowledge and then started up again just after the birth of our third child. Its an emotional thing for her. I think something to do with hormones. But I really need a commitment from her to continue. I'm tired of playing the blame game. You did this to me, I did this to you, blah, blah.. Regardless of what I did before the marriage, when I asked to marry her and married her, I committed to the marriage and it is plain that she did not. I need her to commit to me or tell me that she can not. That is the point that I am at now. But I will give her time to make that decision. I don't think this is too much to ask of your spouse. Do you?
