I just read your thread and what jumps out at me is your wife has been pregnant or postpartum for 5 years. That is very difficult without a lot of support. And that support needs to come from many different sources.
How has the last 5 yrs been for both of you?
No doubt this has been our greatest challenge. Our relationship went from a relationship to zone defense parenting. I clearly paid attention to the kids and not her. And she did the same.
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How did you support her through this transition?
She would easily tell you I am a 50% parent and a 50% house care person. Never been her complaint. What has been missing is we have been 0% spouses, lovers, friends.
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What are your real feelings about her being a SAHM?
I think she gets validation through work. She is a smart woman and has a lot to offer in her field. She knows I support her returning to work and she is starting to look. I know this will help tremendously. It will also create a new struggle as she will be torn about not being a SAHM. We have good help here now even though W is not working (Nanny at 50% time)and we could extend that to full time easily when she finds something.
I appreciate your insight. Please continue to offer guidance and suggestions!
W: 40 Me: 44 M: 12 years Together: 14 Three children (S-4, D-3, S-1) EA started in April, discovered in 07/12 ILYBNILWY: 07/12 MC Started: 09/12 Patience Tested: 1,245,963 times since 07/12
