NickB and labug, thank you for posting. I really appreciate it.

Upon further review.. I didn't validate when she told me she didn't want to go. I listened, but I didn't validate. I need to keep working on that!

I struggle to "lovingly detach." I feel like I could be a doormat if I'm always there for her while there's the potential OM.

Also, how do you think I should handle this?:
W just called me. She said that when I call Retrouvaille to let them know we won't be attending, I should ask them if we can apply the deposit towards a future session.

This sounds to me like she may actually be interested in going another time. I see there's another weekend in December. Perhaps I should mention it to her in a couple days?


M34 W35
S5 S2
T10 M6
on/off over the years including her A
Recently-
Nov 2015 bomb
Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling
Feb bomb
March-April Reconciling
May - bomb
Mid-May I tell her I'm done