NickB and labug, thank you for posting. I really appreciate it.
Upon further review.. I didn't validate when she told me she didn't want to go. I listened, but I didn't validate. I need to keep working on that!
I struggle to "lovingly detach." I feel like I could be a doormat if I'm always there for her while there's the potential OM.
Also, how do you think I should handle this?: W just called me. She said that when I call Retrouvaille to let them know we won't be attending, I should ask them if we can apply the deposit towards a future session.
This sounds to me like she may actually be interested in going another time. I see there's another weekend in December. Perhaps I should mention it to her in a couple days?
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done