I am so sorry for your pain. I understand where you are in this. I think DB ing only makes you stronger down the road, simply because everyday you have to work on it instead of saying f#%* it...lol
I think detaching is the last step in this whole process, where you care what happens to the other person and what they are feeling, but it doesn't keep you up nights. It doesn't impinge on your day. You can have compassion and love but you truly see the person as their own person and not an extension of you or something that you have to fix.
I don't know if this is true of even makes sense...but detaching is love without making you crazy lol!,
