Turtles, Lists and Toilet Brushes

[labug]

zig, I thought you would find your way back here.

My advice to me and it might be helpful for you.

My H doesn't want to be with me. He's made that very clear so I need to give him that. Make a gift of my absence in his life.

I want to see him but when I do it creates lots of emotion in me. Upsetting emotion because his wants and needs are different from mine right now. We are no longer a team working toward a common goal. We are tow people trying to extricate ourselves from this life we shared.

So for my well-being, it's best that we don't see each other, talk to each other, email each other. (I know you have S, and you need to communicate about that)

I can still have love for him from a distance (another emotion that will pass in time), I can still have compassion for him.

I need to do what's best for me, it took me a long time to get here but that's it.

And if your H seems muddled about what he wants, that's his problem. Don't allow him to muddle you, too.

Your problem to solve is what does zig want, what's best for zig.

(((zig))) glad you're back.