thank you for clarifying it for me too. now i get what you are saying. i can really relate to that. i too expected people to just know what i was thinking or needing. its kind of odd that we are talking about it. last week i was talking with my sponsor about the anxiety i get from this. how i would feel like people didnt care about me or my needs. way stressful for me. he told me something that made me think. he said,"have you ever tried asking for what you want or need? not demanding or telling people, but simply asking?" of course being the dense guy i am the answer was no. never dawned on me that asking for things was an okay thing to do. it doesnt make me weak, just honest.
i totally understand the way you feel about brain freezing. it still happens to me. i like that you recognize it and are taking steps to improve it. its a tough one cuz i feel like it is a whole new way of doing things. not so much active listening, but actively participating. i get muddled up when stuff comes at me i wasnt expecting. i get caught up trying to make the right response, and end up not making one at all sometimes. this is something i need to think on..thank you for that.
the white noise thing..as a guy i am super comfortable with that. women i notice aren't as much. way i see it is, if the person is still there, its cuz they want to be. sometimes people are comfortable just being aound someone. i know i am. im not saying i am right, just what i think. let me know what you think. as always i love your insights.
