Bug, I just read through your "talk". I don't think I have anything earth shattering here, but after the amount of time that's elapsed, the part of avoiding initiating an R talk doesn't matter anymore. You just have to let it rip and let the chips fall where they may.
I did something similar a few months ago and I have no regrets. At least my W knew where I stood. I haven't done it again yet, but I may at some point before this ride is over.
BTW, loved that post from the DB FB page you shared.
