He's Just Not That Into You

[RegretfulLA]

Well, I'm still not really too happy with him over what happened last weekend (him going out with that girl.) Just now, I said I was still upset about it and his response was, "That's fine." I had to tell him that it wasn't fine, and that he shouldn't be fine with it. These are the kinds of responses that tell me he's not ready to own any of this.

I didn't speak to him at all while he was on his business trip, not even after the election. I don't really have anything to say to him or any desire to talk to him at this point. But I had to give myself a little talk when I got home tonight and was about to see him after 3 days. I don't want to come across as bitchy or angry, and I definitely feel that way. I see myself as the proverbial cat wagging its tail, tolerating the situation as best I can.

I know you must have concerns about whether H is going to man up to his role, or continue to try to push this off on you.

It's hard for me to tell what his MO is right now. A good friend of mine says he's mind f-ing me. I don't know if that's true, but I do think he's a little confused about what he wants. Originally he was very committed to D and I don't think he's necessarily on that path any more. I see that he's trying to decide what he wants. But I don't know that he'll man up as you say and take any ownership of any of this. I really do want to work all of this out, still, but without emotional support from him or any sort of sign that he's invested, I don't know that I will be able to.