The Lure of the Siren

[Arsene]

I wasn't trying to slam you Arsene. I just think that if you can't tell someone, 'I don't know if you know, but my W and I are currently separated', then you are protecting her, and you are silently in denial of reality. You are trying to pretend that things are different than they really are. In fact, I see you doing this with your daughter in some ways. I'm just not sure how healthy it is for her, and you, to continue living your lives with the idea that your W will be coming home. It is what is right now. And you should always live life acknowledging what IS... IMO. Hopefully that 'IS" changes and you can begin living life with a new reality... but not yet.

If any of that makes sense...

It is hard Arsene. No one is saying that it isn't.

I didn't take offense Denver. I know and understand what you are saying and I have been thinking about it for a while. Perhaps that is why yesterday I mentioned it to a few people at work, to begin to make it more real to ME. It still feels unreal mate.

I still don't think I was doing it to protect my W, though. Really, it was more to protect my reality, or my embellished vision of reality. I suppose I told myself that once it is final, I'll tell people but as long as I'm in limbo, it's no one's business (and really, I still don't think it is in many ways). In this country you learn to answer what people expect you to answer and avoid lengthy explanations. The thing is, the way my life looks right now, what the heck do I need to make it final? It does look pretty final right now, doesn't it?

Thanks Denver,