Hi jendp, I'm sorry your H is doing this right now. Mine is doing things that I couldn't understand either. It's like I understand some of his emotions but the same time, what he is doing is just "unbelievable" to me.
I felt the same way from time to time that maybe he IS trying to hurt me. The reason I think that is, he knows me so well. He knows I'd worry about things, and be sad. But still, he is doing what he is, "knowing" that I would be really upset. After reading many posts here, I see that almost every WAS is doing things this way, mean, hurting things to their spouses. And many couples married for 20 some years! I'd think they should know what they're doing is hurting their S so much! But yet, they are doing those things.
I remember my H said once that he wanted to think for himself now, he said he didn't want to take care of me anymore. My point is, your H probably knows this is not nice to you and he doesn't do this on purpose. But he probably doesn't want to feel sorry for you to protect himself. He probably would not sit there for long to think about how you'd feel. And his mind is justified by whatever to feel and behave this way.
I just hope that you don't feel like your H is the only mean H out there right now. Be strong! I still don't know what to do with my H myself (sadly) Keep learning and GAL. We'll get over this eventually.
