I was going to answer this on your post, but it's closed. You should start a new one.
The answer to your question is yes... on both counts... they're taking your temperature and, unfortunately, if they see you're still there, waiting like a puppy dog with bated breath... well you've just set yourself back quite a ways...
to steal from Starsky... BINGO!
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce