It's been a while mate, but in all seriousness CB's question is really valid.
I get why you would still want to protect your wife's feelings, because it is a natural reaction to protect the one's we love no matter what they have done to us.
In this case though by protecting her feelings here you are denying your W the opportunity to go through these feelings and emotions, in the hope that she would reflect upon her life choices, consequences to these choices and to ask herself what she truly wants out of life.
Through your wife's actions she has given you this gift to obtain this knowledge. The only way you can help your wife learn is to stop being her protector and to be what Denver sometimes refers to as a "lighthouse" for your wife.
Right now she might not see the lighthouse shining bright, but if her internal storms pass and she looks for guidance, she will see the lighthouse, she will see you.
Keep to your own path.
Bill
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
