I would hope my H will react the way your W did, but I also don't want to have a confrontation. Ugh...
Here's one of the best pieces of DB advice I can offer you:
Stop thinking in terms of "If I do 'X', how will my husband react? Will he be angry? How will his reaction make ME feel?"
Intead, replace it with: "What is the RIGHT THING TO DO in this situation? What is the thing that God Himself would have me do, if He were standing right in front of me?" And then let your husband's reaction to it be whatever it's going to be, realizing you'll be just fine.
It takes a little practice, but it's VERY liberating if you're a classic co-dependent "pleaser" like I am.
