Dealing with the reality of separation

[PeteWyo]

As my W told me many times, she doubted that we could fix things, she feared that things would go back to the way that they were before she left, and OM represented an 'escape' and a 'chance for happiness' without me.

She said something like this to me early on. But we are much further down the rabbit hole at this point.

In my sitch, I truly believe that OM was plan B. But as long as she had plan B, she could never fully commit her head, but more importantly, her heart, to plan A... to me.

I can't know for sure that he is plan A. But it sure feels like if she had ANY interest in a R with me that she would be doing something other than asking me when she will have her things. The stranger thing to me is that she tells her sister that I won't talk to her. There is some sort of wheel turning there, but my guess is that it is more guilt than anything.

I completely understand that you can't wait forever. I encourage you to detach and let her go. That does not meant that you have to file for a D though. I guess that I just don't see a rush to do that. Go live your life for now. Let the future unfold in its own time.

Like I asked you before, what else are you going to do?

Sulk. But at least I will have my closure. Maybe another 180 I need to work on is patience.