Thanks for the advice which I will act on. The cheerful detachment I am working on...well.....cheerfulness in general .
Re my S he has no speech, delayed learning ability which is also affected by no speech as communication is difficult with him. He has floppy muscle tone as well so fine motor skills have been delayed and he needs to be supervised walking. He is very routine focussed. We have behvioural issues when something he enjoys finishes. His behaviour in this aspect got worse at his previous school which was also part of the decision to move schools. He has improved a lot since doing so.
I will read your sitch - had not realised you also have S with special needs.
I could also use some help re menopause. W younger sister went into early menopause (age 40) - This was about 2 yrs ago, W older sister has recently in the last few months gone into menopause. I think I mentioned this in a previous post.
But when I got home from work W brought it up, said she has not been sleeping well, waking up sweaty a few times a night etc but no change in her cycle. Although she says they have got more painful. I responded a bit stupidly by saying does it worry her (of course it would worry her!), but she did say yes and opened up a little about herself/bod etc.
Does anyone know of any good books/sites to research menopause. Could it explain W, could it trigger MLC? Thats not that I dont accept my part in all this - believe me there are things I have needed to change for a long time.
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