Denver, I know that you had an OM in the picture. How long was your W with him before she decided to give it another shot? (if you don't mind me asking)
I don't mind. But it is kind of a hazy answer. For the first 2 months, give or take, after my W left, she was dating OM. After that, it was back and forth between dating him and trying to work things out with me. The one thing that I never quite 'got' though was that as long as he was on her brain, she and I had no chance to reconcile. As my W told me many times, she doubted that we could fix things, she feared that things would go back to the way that they were before she left, and OM represented an 'escape' and a 'chance for happiness' without me.
In my sitch, I truly believe that OM was plan B. But as long as she had plan B, she could never fully commit her head, but more importantly, her heart, to plan A... to me.
I completely understand that you can't wait forever. I encourage you to detach and let her go. That does not meant that you have to file for a D though. I guess that I just don't see a rush to do that. Go live your life for now. Let the future unfold in its own time.
Like I asked you before, what else are you going to do?
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
