Your young. I think you should use this as an opportunity to set boundaries in place and legal D in place to keep this man from disrupting your life every few years. Are you prepared to go through this again in your 40's and 50's and be living in a situation where you know he is a ticking time bomb just waiting to go off? These are some thoughts I am sure you go through in all of this.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!