Thanks Wendylon! I am getting ready to head out now. Nervous as I can be! I guess that is to be expected. I have a couple of job leads and low and behold got some interesting emails for work from home transcription which would be ideal. I have always worried I don't have quite the skills for that. However, they have a testing process so I am just going to do that later. Wish me luck! Have a great day every one!
So that was interesting. She basically wants me to get my paperwork together and she was going to file custody and status quo paperwork. Essentially, she believes that the judge will want him to undergo an evaluation and get on meds before he is given unsupervised visitation. If he chooses not to- likely it would be only supervised visitation. The property and house are likely to be given to my H because they were deeded from his father to him exclusively. So I don't know. I guess I am moving forward. I feel ambivalent.
Well, it's over. Good job. I think you will feel ambivalent regardless. Only a few people have absolutely no doubts when they go through a D. Remember you have the 6-mo motion for concilliation option.
Your young. I think you should use this as an opportunity to set boundaries in place and legal D in place to keep this man from disrupting your life every few years. Are you prepared to go through this again in your 40's and 50's and be living in a situation where you know he is a ticking time bomb just waiting to go off? These are some thoughts I am sure you go through in all of this.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Chatterbug- That is the only reason I am doing it. I know without a shadow of a doubt this will continue to go on. Also, last night my son said something to me about something I had NO idea he knew. Essentially, when H was committed, he tried to kill me that day. In a nutshell, he had an assault rifle in his hand put the rifle to my chest and fired. The gun jammed. S14 says something was sort of dented or something on the gun. So I heard the click, the gun jammed, and it ejected the bullet. It was misshapen though because of the hammer hitting it. S14 saw the whole thing. I didn;t realize. He also kept the bullet. I never told anyone. I just figured H was very very sick. Somehow though when S told me about it last night, I KNEW I have to follow through and move on. Not sure why it has taken me so long before now. Thanks for your thoughts!