Man, do I know what this is like! I've been living this for quite some time. All I can say is that you're doing well, stay the course.
I also wanted to say in the times I've been lurking recently that your comments to other posters have jumped out at me. I also love your attitude and approach.
Thanks! Yeah, it's tough isn't it? When I read in DR about how fighting couples need to do 180's and gauge their improvements by how much less they fight, or how calmly they can resolve things without fighting, I just think "yeah, but how about those of us that don't fight, how do we gauge progress?" We just don't have those "big" things to measure progress with.
Yes, it is tough! I hear you on the fighting, too. When we told my S last year, it was like he was getting bombed because he said we never fight. Now, I've picked a fight or two worth fighting since the bomb as a 180, LOL
