Next Step, Moving On

[MrBond]

"but that she expects me to act this way and won't give me any props for it. "

Nor should she. It is something you should have been doing all this time so don't expect anything. That's what the issue has been so far. You do something and "expect" a certain reaction from her. Suspend all expectations and just do things because you want to do them.

"She just said she wants a D, that I had a very narrow window where I could have changed her mind, but that I messed that up by not leaving and giving her her space."

They all say that so don't worry about that part.

"Also, my emotional outbursts pushed her over the edge, and now she is totally done and will not even consider trying to patch things up."

I can see that.

"She just wants me out, and she want me to do the right thing and leave the house to her and the kids."

Here's where you tell her that just because she is unhappy, she has NO right to tell you to leave the home which you built. Plus the children are yours as well and she will not dictate when you can see your own children. Tell her that you understand how she feels and that you have been changing. Tell her that if she doesn't want to do anything, that is her choice, and right now you're thinking of what's best for the kids, which is something she has no right to determine on her own.