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but AT if you notice the only time this becomes and issue is if it gets longer in time not shorter on the cycle....


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Hey Chatter... Sorry, I'm not quite clear on what you're saying...

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the grieving cycle. The relapses become shorter and shorter through time


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Roger! And you're dead-on there... These cycles used to last weeks... now they're days or hours...

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Originally Posted By: AlkalineThoughts
Roger! And you're dead-on there... These cycles used to last weeks... now they're days or hours...
and they should continue to be less often.


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There's still that voice saying I should try something new... that whole "Do what works" mentality... But again, I need to see that from different perspectives... For the most part, what I'm doing now is working FOR ME, as far as my PMA and growth as a person... and while I've seen absolutely no movement on the "sitch"... I have to keep remembering that PATIENCE is a key virtue there... after all, what's a month or two of silence in the grand scheme of things... especially if it helps me grow as a person?


Nice....I always think of the "be the change you want to see" quote a lot on here. I am glad you are seeing growth and staying the course. On good days, when I see how far I have come, I feel a lot quieter inside, do you get that as well? Almost as if you are more solid...

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You're sounding good At, even if your W keeps popping up. You sure sound stronger and more focused on yourself. Keep it up mate.


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Another day... another Journal.

There are quite a few interesting things happening in my life, work-wise at least. But I can't shake this feeling that I'm kinda stuck. It just feels, for whatever reason, that I'm not making much progress lately, either personally or in the sitch... I suppose going more than a month without hearing from W has something to do with that, but there's just something more and I can't put my finger on it.

I need to figure out something new to do... or something to rededicate myself to... Maybe it's just as simple as hitting the gym harder, or maybe I just need something I'm not thinking of... like a random road trip with the doggie or something...

Anyway, I'm glad it's almost the weekend, as there are at least SOME plans for tomorrow night!

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Originally Posted By: AlkalineThoughts
I need to figure out something new to do... or something to rededicate myself to... Maybe it's just as simple as hitting the gym harder, or maybe I just need something I'm not thinking of... like a random road trip with the doggie or something...


Great time for a new hobby or skill -- maybe one that requires interaction with others or a class or something. I am not implying you do not have enough ideas or suggestions for yourself, but I am finding I am starting to share the exact advice I need to follow and reading your thread was a great opportunity for self reflection.


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Originally Posted By: AlkalineThoughts
Another day... another Journal.

There are quite a few interesting things happening in my life, work-wise at least. But I can't shake this feeling that I'm kinda stuck. It just feels, for whatever reason, that I'm not making much progress lately, either personally or in the sitch... I suppose going more than a month without hearing from W has something to do with that, but there's just something more and I can't put my finger on it.

I need to figure out something new to do... or something to rededicate myself to... Maybe it's just as simple as hitting the gym harder, or maybe I just need something I'm not thinking of... like a random road trip with the doggie or something...

Anyway, I'm glad it's almost the weekend, as there are at least SOME plans for tomorrow night!


I love the idea of having the random roadtrip with the pup! Do it.

Sounds like you work out quite a bit AT. This process is similar to working out in that you sometimes hit plateaus where you don't see much progress. That's probably what you are experiencing now. Wait it out. You'll be surprised how your head and heart work these things out for themselves when given ample time.


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