I understand about these phases where things in the sitch are SSDD and not feeling like posting much. They (our spouses) do seem to get themselves stuck in a groove for periods of time, eh?
Could you help me wrap my head around this "feeling ugly" thing that W is going through? My re-assurances through the years (and I was very consistent in those, even too much where I was remiss in validating her other qualities) weren't heard/accepted, one reason was because I was her H, so of course I didn't think she was ugly, and the other men's noticing/opinions/etc is so important...*sigh*...I still don't get that fully...
Hope you are doing well!
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
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