rH, How is your h ever going to miss you if you are texting him? He needs time to process what he's done and will have lost when the divorce is final. Yes, he's a mess right now and there's nothing that is going to change that, not even your text messages. Let him go so that he can miss you and wonder what you are doing.
I'm not surprised at all as to what your lawyer told about the alimony or the amount could be more than half of his salary. It sounds like things are progressing and all of this could be over by the end of the year. I'm sorry that this has happened, but this might be what sends your h off completely on the Mother Ship w/o distraction.
Your h's pain is very great and the alcohol is dulling the pain for him. If he continues down this particular route, maybe he will hit bottom and ask for help.
What are you doing for yourself these days?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I don't know how you do it RH... If i was on the rollercoaster you are on i think i would be holding my head over the side of the car appologizing afterwards to those behind me... I get so emotionally torn up even after spending a few hours of time together (no real closeness).
Keep your focus, D is just a piece of paper that i hope your H will see does not solve his internal turmoil. I am not trying to get your hopes up (stay detatched to protect yourself) but I can hope along with you that at some point he will hit bottom and start waking up.
If you have any of that cheesecake send it my way, i'm down 40 pounds since this all started
I would rather feel pain then never feel at all... Separated 3/2012 T 34 yrs M 27 yrs
Thinking of you, and hope you are still kicking a$$ and taking names. And making cheesecake. And cruising in the mustang. And just being your awesome self
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I understand about these phases where things in the sitch are SSDD and not feeling like posting much. They (our spouses) do seem to get themselves stuck in a groove for periods of time, eh?
Could you help me wrap my head around this "feeling ugly" thing that W is going through? My re-assurances through the years (and I was very consistent in those, even too much where I was remiss in validating her other qualities) weren't heard/accepted, one reason was because I was her H, so of course I didn't think she was ugly, and the other men's noticing/opinions/etc is so important...*sigh*...I still don't get that fully...
Hope you are doing well!
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
