If this is your boundary I think all you need say is "H, I've thought about it and you coming to the house for visitation with the kids isn't doable."

No matter what, leave out the 'healthy, happy and exciting' part.

And congrats on the job! You have a lot of spunk for a pregnant woman with 2 kids whose H left.

Mama Bear protecting her cubs. Keep that mojo.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss