She just said she wants a D, that I had a very narrow window where I could have changed her mind, but that I messed that up by not leaving and giving her her space.
She's trying to guilt trip you. As we said in your last thread, she very likely had no intention of reconciling and your leaving would not have helped anything and likely would have made things worse.
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She just wants me out, and she want me to do the right thing and leave the house to her and the kids.
That is the "right" thing for HER and HER ALONE. It is NOT the right thing for you or for the kids. SHE is the one that wants to end the marriage and break up the family. The RIGHT thing for the family is for the two of you to stay together. Breaking up the family is WRONG. If SHE insists on breaking up the family, then SHE needs to go. She's trying to manipulate you. Don't fall for it.
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I feel lost.......I don't know what to do, where to go, what to say.....
It's quite simple. You don't do anything, you stay put. You don't say anything, you act "as if" everything is fine. If she talks, then you listen and validate. If she tells you to leave then you smile and say "no, that's not going to happen, I'm committed to keeping our family together but if you truly think you need to leave to be happy then I will not stand in your way, I support your decision."
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I don't even know if therapy is going to do any good, she seems so closed minded to anything except what she thinks, it feels like a dead end.
MC rarely has any value when a WAS is one foot out the door. MC is good for piecing, but not at the stage you're in.
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My kids weigh Heavy on my mind and my thoughts.
As well they should. That's another reason you need to stay put- for them. Remember what I said in your other thread, whichever spouse leaves the house will be perceived by them as the one that abandoned the M. You don't want that to be you.
