W filed, I think we can make it work - what to do?

[labug]

I'm going to disagree slightly with this. For me, it was important for to understand where some of my feelings, ideas and habits came from. There was some healing I had to do there in terms of forgiving my parents and such. Afterwards though, you have to make a conscious decision, without the baggage of your history....who do I want to be? What kind of a H? What kind of a father? There are no excuses to be made....you decide, then you do it. You have bad habits, but you can decide to change them.

Thanks for saying that. There are different approaches, the trick is to find the one that allows the client to make progress. I, too needed to dig up a lot of garbage before I could plant new grass.

I went to a solutions-based counselor a few years ago and it didn't give me what I needed at that time.

The yardstick should be, Are you moving forward?