Total Eclipse by Dan Band

[labug]

vero, I missed your first post from today-I'm want to respond to a couple of things. I just posted on my communication skills, or lack of today. It seems we share some traits.

I honestly don't remember his response cuz I'm terrible at remembering dialogue, but...
In my mind, he ignored what I said and continued to talk about the surgery day.

For me, this is because I'm not fully aware or in the moment. My mind has already gone to my victim place. This is part of the brain freeze. I'm girding my loins for an attack and not listening to what is being said. So then I don't respond to what is said but continue on my agenda. I don't let the conversation go where it needs to I try to control it, bring it back to me.

The feelings of that text came back and were added to the feelings of being ignored in this conversation. My tone of voice was very ummm polite and distant. "ok well thank you for that. I appreciate it." He caught on. "did I say something wrong? If I did, I'm sorry"

What was that about? Write out what you meant to convey by that. Maybe even write out how you would rather the conversation had gone.

This is why we get the "walking on eggshells" tag.

Until we understand how we do this, we can't change it.