The WAW does not desire anything in regards to her H, the M, affection, on & on. The more he wants her to just say she'll "try".....the worse he's making it on himself. If he can accept that he won't hear her say that, the better chance he will have. Each time he brings it up, the more he pushes her away.
Excellent insight, Sandi. It is as if you were in the same room when I first started pushing my wife for any level of assurance. I thought what I was doing was innocent and harmless and yet I realize now it was just as selfish and destructive as my W was being. I pushed her further and further each time.
I hope others are reading this same thread. What great insight.
W: 40 Me: 44 M: 12 years Together: 14 Three children (S-4, D-3, S-1) EA started in April, discovered in 07/12 ILYBNILWY: 07/12 MC Started: 09/12 Patience Tested: 1,245,963 times since 07/12
