I know that now, but didn't then. I was just applying pressure to her, it wouldn't have mattered if I was asking for a 99% possibility or 1%, either way it was 100% pressure.
Great advice. My sitch is still fairly new, but I learned this same hard lesson early on. DB'ing works and addresses this if you stay consistent. It is hard, but I do notice a change in the R conversations when she brings them up and the moment I stopped asking her for assurances the more she would talk. Even the level of anger has died down because of the BD process.
W: 40 Me: 44 M: 12 years Together: 14 Three children (S-4, D-3, S-1) EA started in April, discovered in 07/12 ILYBNILWY: 07/12 MC Started: 09/12 Patience Tested: 1,245,963 times since 07/12
