I would describe the last few days as neutral at best. No fighting or yelling. No outward signs of anger unleashed at me. All to the positive.
That's a good sign, after the monster outbursts, "neutral" is progress!
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However, no R talks either which could be good or bad at the moment. Having not been through this before, I am guessing the less R talk brought up by her right now the better considering most of them are just crazy uncorking sessions for her.
Absolutely, no R talks is great!! You most definitely don't want to EVER bring up R talks yourself, and if she brings it up just try to be a great listener and validate her emotions. Don't try to fix things, direct the conversation or add your own thoughts. Just listen and validate. If you do that it should diffuse the tension and make her more comfortable talking about her emotions.
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Happy to listen and validate, but clear she has rewritten history in her head at the moment when we do discuss R.
Totally normal. Just remember this DB tip:
32. Do not believe any of what you hear and less than 50% of what you see. Your spouse will speak in absolute negatives because she is hurting and scared.
The rewritten history hurts to hear, but just act "as if" everything is fine and remember she's just spouting BS.
