ahhh!!! today was a bad one trying to keep my family out of it but i am the youngest and every time i say I am going to do everything I can to save my marriage everyone attacks.
Then quit talking about your M to them. Notice above that it's when you bring it up that they start attacking you. So quit bringing it up!
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this is so hard. they say i am pushing all of them away for someone who doesn't care about me but i am not trying to I am just trying to keep them informed of my choice.
Wow, well it sounds like they are being very selfish and unsupportive. More reasons not to talk to them about it. If they bring it up just tell them you're living things a day at a time and working on yourself. That's what I tell my family (who like yours have been largely unhelpful).
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I just want to try and fix this without guilt from others.
Wait, you want to fix what? The marriage? You can't. That's the main pillar of DB'ing, fix the one and only thing you have full control over- YOURSELF. In doing so you may find your H attracted to you again, if so then maybe the two of you can build a new R and M (it's not about fixing the old one).
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I hate fighting with them I feel so isolated but want to spend time with people but others only want to pry and lecture me when i say I still love him
Come here to talk about your M. When you're with friends and family talk about other things. You can control the conversations.
