Very insightful Sandi!! Before I found DB'ing I kept asking W for some assurance that there was just a tiny possibility she would consider R down the road. I told her even a 5% change, or a 1% chance would be something to work towards. But she steadfastly refused to offer even that much hope. What's the lesson? I never should have asked in the first place! I know that now, but didn't then. I was just applying pressure to her, it wouldn't have mattered if I was asking for a 99% possibility or 1%, either way it was 100% pressure.
