I see you questioning your decision to see the IC. I would hold off the visits until you feel like going--really feel it. I stuck with my IC forever and all he did was making me feel worse, and telling me to end my M. Waste of time and $$. But it's your decision.
I understand why you got frustrated with your W. But this is the process of her learning to take responsibility. It's a tough process, but failing is the way for her learn she needs to change her ways. I would limit the conv to finances and not to the R, though. Keep that in mind for next time...
