I think it was fine that your W felt like a spare part on Tues especially if it's one of your 180s. It's good for her to see that you and S12 are fine without her.

It seems to me that you might be better off not voicing a preference for her coming home earlier or later, or suggesting that she take a break from working on her place. It still makes you sound quite involved (which obviously you are) but I would try to show more cheerful detachment.

By the way, I wonder whether your S12 is in any ways similar to my S12 in terms of functioning.

Keep DBing!

Me: 51
H: 52
T: 23 yrs
M: 19 yrs
S18, D16, S14 (special needs)
PA: 2003/2004
Piecing: 2004 on
Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012