Next Step, Moving On

[dorightman]

We went to therapy yesterday together. I stated that I want to reconcile, she stated that she wants a separation again. The therapist told me that i need to be more compassionate to my w, and not fight with her or give her a hard time, just to honor her request for space.
Then he told her that she should try to work with me more to try to heal the past with me, whether we divorce or not. He told me that she needs me emotionally, that there's a hole in her that I need to fill.
After the session, we drove home together and talked. It sucked. She just said she wants a D, that I had a very narrow window where I could have changed her mind, but that I messed that up by not leaving and giving her her space. Also, my emotional outbursts pushed her over the edge, and now she is totally done and will not even consider trying to patch things up. She just wants me out, and she want me to do the right thing and leave the house to her and the kids.
But she is afraid that I will do everything wrong by hiring an attorney and fighting her tooth and nail. Another reason she thinks I'm not for her she said.
I feel lost.......I don't know what to do, where to go, what to say.....
I don't even know if therapy is going to do any good, she seems so closed minded to anything except what she thinks, it feels like a dead end.
I'm VERY sad and confused about what to do now. My kids weigh Heavy on my mind and my thoughts.
Can anyone chime in and give me some feedback please?