Take it easy mate. This is where you wanted to be a few weeks ago. You spent all this time not focusing on the way you feel because you were so busy DBing and focusing on the way she felt. Now it's starting to hit you and maybe you're wondering if you're doing the right thing. There's a section on this in DR. Have a read (I'm at work now so I can't look it up for you). It says something about what happens to you when the pressure is off and you start getting in touch with your feelings. It talks about how you might end up having second thoughts about going through with it. IMO, that's where you are. It's not the time to give up now. Just take a breather and step back for a bit. As you said, you both get paid soon so the problem can be sorted. You can use this as a tool to get you two working together with a common goal, sorting out your finances.

Take care Afa,


Freshman Class of 2012

M-49
W-42
1D-10
T 10 YEARS
M 9 YEARS
EA/MLC 07/2010
Separation 28/05/2012
PA confirmed 31/07/12
W Asked for D 31/07/12
D on and off the table since then