Ah. I didn't take his advice as such. Frankly, I would like to keep my children from visiting until he goes back for a psych eval and possible meds. He NEEDS them. It was about 2 years ago when the swat team had to come take him in and he was involuntarily committed. As soon as he was no longer being monitored he stopped ALL treatmzents even his IC. I am stuck in a crap position between trying to give my kids what they want and also ensure their safety. Do I think he would hurt them? No. Do I believe he might put them in a situation that is unsafe? Absolutely. Frankly, i was told It is considered abandonment and as such I do NOT have to allow visitation. I'm not sure about this. The custody and his state of mind is my primary reason for going. Money while a huge stressor is something I can try to work with. Many of our bills are set up on autopay. I have been checking their status and so far so good. Ha! He might be in for a surprise. Especially when he sees how his crazy spending habits really work for him! Lol sorry if that sounds mean. Money has always been an issue because he has the typical bipolar spending habits.i always did the bills. Now he gets to. Or her. Either way. I can borrow from family for a month or so until I get working. Been in tough situations before. Hell, last time he left me with a single $100 bill. Cleaned out our bank account and at that time we had no credit. I did it before and can do it again. Eff him. I got this handled. ;-) I am worried but I do have faith things will work out. At least for us. I have pretty much nothing but pity for him at this point. Likely when it all well and truly sinks in it will be more than his mind can handle and I never wanted that for him.
